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Regarding Toxic Masculinity

I've tried to ignore the subject so far, perfectly aware that this is an issue where balance and level-headedness are rare and difficult, but I'm going against my better judgment and giving it a shot.  Here are my thoughts on toxic masculinity.   Please bear in mind that they are coming from an evangelical Christian perspective.

1) If you think that toxic masculinity (or perverted masculinity or corrupted masculinity...call it what you will) doesn't exist, you're blind or have been very fortunate.

2) If you believe that toxic masculinity exists, but deny that toxic femininity (or toxic feminism) exists, you're blind and a hypocrite.

3) If you equivocate toxic masculinity with masculinity, you're part of the problem, not the solution.

4) If you don't believe that the woman is the weaker vessel, you are not a Bible-believing Christian, nor have you watched the WNBA (I can't blame you for that).

5) If you think that women being the weaker vessel is a license for men to abuse them, you didn't actually read 1 Peter 3:7 and you don't understand who Jesus is.

6) If you think that women being the weaker vessel means that men are better or more significant than women, you're a fool.

7) If you think that true masculinity is brute, insensitive force, your view of masculinity is based more on 80's action movies than the Bible.

8) If you derive your views of masculinity/femininity from the culture around you, you're more American (or any other respective nationality) than Christian.

9) If you blame all men for the abuse perpetrated upon you by your father, ex-lover, or some other man, you are pitiable, but are nonetheless overreacting unproductively (if understandably).

10) If a commercial for a personal care product causes you to change your life in some fundamental way, you're a sad human being.

11) If you think that vitriolically demonizing an entire gender, whether male or female, is the solution to the social issues plaguing our nation, you're not helping.

12) If you think that the "traditional" family is the problem, you're obviously not paying attention.

13) If you think that a man opening a door for you, or in some other way attempting to assist you physically, is his accusing you of being weak or unable to do it yourself, you just need to chill. 

14) If you think that using creative labels for sin will help humanity evolve past it, you're going to be severely disappointed.

15) If you were offended by that WNBA reference, well, I'm not sure what I can do for you.

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