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Ephesians 5:22-33

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."

    A short post.  Notice that Paul (i.e. God) tells husbands and wives and people in general to love and respect each other.  This means those people around us.  These are the people that make up our lives.  God does not tell us to keep searching for "the one" or for people who are easier to get along with or who are more loveable.  Why do we Christians run away from trouble every time we have an argument or a disagreement?  We need to love and respect each other, and that means action, not just feeling.  We need to put each other's needs and desires before our own and love the heck out of people.

    Secondly, the Bible never once commands us only to marry those with whom we have fallen in love.  The over-romanticizing of love is destroying American churches and our culture in general.  Marrying for love is not a bad thing.  I love my wife.  However, had I married a woman just because she cooked well and whom I respected for her motherly desire, I would be within the boundaries of Scripture; and Paul would give us the same instruction--love each other, respect each other, and put each other first.  Searching endlessly for that perfect man or woman results in disappointment and divorce.  Finding someone whose personality you enjoy, with whom you enjoy spending time, and whom you respect as a Christian brother or sister is what matters.  We must marry Christians only, and we are called to love all Christians, so naturally we'll love whomever we marry. But once you're married all else is cast aside and you are called to love and reflect Christ. 

    Perhaps I sound heartless.  I'm not.  But we need to be more practical and less romantic here in the American church.  We need to choose spouses based on principle and not feeling only.

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