Always Reforming

10 years of love, 10 years of trust, 10 years of you, 10 years of us. It feels like forever, And yet, yesterday, That we said,  I do , That you took my name. A decade, A lifetime, A moment, A breath. 10 years of laughter and heartache, 10 years of worries and memories, 10 years of triumphs and mistakes, 10 years of constant discoveries. 10 years of love, 10 years of trust, 10 years of you, 10 years of us.

At the heart of today’s debate over many social issues, particularly transgenderism, is a very simple question: is reality objective?  That is, is there a genuine, objective reality that exists outside of me ?  Is there something transcendent (a god, nature, etc.) to which I must inevitably relate and by which I am bound; or am I self-determining and self-defining?  Do my beliefs and desires, my psyche, create a reality to which the world around me, including other people, must conform? How we answer this fundamental question (and we often answer it subconsciously) will determine how we live our lives and how we interact with our fellow citizens.  Debates over social issues will, of course, remain fruitless as long as we disagree about this basic concept.